🏹 Hunters and Gatherers 🧺

Come, come sit with me. Grab yourself a drink and pull up a chair. Let’s have a talk.

Have you ever noticed how different parts of us show up in different places?

And for a moment, I’m going to put some labels on those different places. But before I do, let me make something clear: I’m not saying you need to be one or the other. I’m not even saying these labels are right. They’re simply a way for me to illustrate something I’ve been thinking about.

So, with that being said, let’s talk about hunters and gatherers.

And remember, this is just my personal thought. It’s what I see when I look at the people around me and, if I’m being truthful, when I look at myself.

When I think about hunters, I think about the people who go out and get it.

They seek opportunities. They push. They initiate. They take risks. They see something they want—or something that needs to be done—and they move toward it. They’re often the ones saying, “Okay, what’s next?” They like movement. They like progress. They like making things happen.

Hunter energy moves things forward.

Then there are the gatherers.

When I think about gatherers, I think about the people who connect, nurture and maintain. They notice things. They strengthen relationships. They create stability. They take care of what’s already there. They’re often the people making sure everyone is okay, checking in, keeping things together and protecting what’s been built.

Gatherer energy gives things somewhere to grow.

Now that you know what I mean when I say hunters and gatherers, let’s put them together.

Or not.

But let me tell you what I mean.

Think about a sales team.

You may have someone who is a natural hunter. They love going after the opportunity. Give them a prospect and they’re ready to go. They’ll make the call, knock on the door, start the conversation and work to bring that new business in.

And they’re good at it.

Then you may have someone else on that same team who is a natural gatherer.

They may not want to chase the next opportunity. But give them that customer once they walk through the door and watch what happens.

They build the relationship. They learn the customer. They listen. They notice. They follow up. They take what was brought in and help it grow.

And they’re good at that.

Put those two energies together and look at what you have.

A powerful sales team.

One person loves finding and bringing in the opportunity. Another loves nurturing and growing what’s already there.

They don’t need to do the same thing.

They don’t need to want to do the same thing.

That’s what makes the team work.

But here’s where I think we sometimes get people wrong.

We see someone in one part of their life—in one room—and we think we know who they are.

But do we?

Go back to that sales team for a minute.

Maybe someone is the gatherer in that room. That’s the role they naturally fit into on that team. They build the relationships. They maintain what’s there. They keep things moving in their own way.

And that’s okay.

But that doesn’t mean they’re a gatherer in every room they walk into.

Think about a mom.

Maybe at work she’s the gatherer. She isn’t the one who wants to chase the next sale or hunt down the next opportunity. She’s comfortable in the role she has, and she’s good at it.

Then she walks through her front door.

And suddenly?

She’s hunting.

She’s getting dinner on the table. She’s getting one kid to practice and another one to finish their homework. She’s figuring out what needs to happen tomorrow. She’s making decisions, solving problems and getting everybody where they need to be.

Same woman.

Different room.

Different energy.

And that’s really what I’m trying to say.

Sometimes the person you see in one room is simply bringing the energy they need—or choose—to bring to that particular part of their life.

I know that because I’m the opposite.

At work, I can hunt.

I can go after what needs to be done. I can chase the opportunity. I can solve the problem. I can push.

Then I come home and that part of me can sit right down.

At home, I gather.

And both are me.

Because let’s be honest, we all walk into different rooms at different times in our lives.

And every room doesn’t ask the same thing from us.

The person I am when I walk into work isn’t necessarily the same person I am when I walk through my front door.

The person you are as a parent may be different from the person you are with your closest friends.

Different rooms can bring out different parts of us.

If you only know me from one room, you only know the version of me you’ve seen in that room.

That doesn’t make that version fake.

It just means it isn’t all of me.

Maybe I hunt in one room.

Maybe I gather in another.

Maybe in some rooms, I do a little bit of both.

So remember, when you look at somebody and you only see them in one room, don’t assume that’s the whole person.

They will walk into different rooms throughout their life.

Rooms where they may be different.

Rooms that may bring out another side of them.

Rooms you may never get to see.

We are all more than the one room somebody happens to see us in.

Whispering this to you...

Don’t mistake the room you met someone in for the whole house. 🌹

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