🌿 Being Present… But From a Distance

Come, come sit with me…
Grab yourself a drink and pull up a chair.

Okay… let’s talk for a moment.

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve had a few conversations where people said something to me…

that I don’t really message unless I’m messaged first.

And to be quite honest…
they’re not wrong.

But here’s the thing…

If those people ever needed me, I would be there in a minute.
I would be present in that moment.

But I’ve started to realize something…

People today need more than just moments.

They need connection more often…
even if it’s just a quick text.

And it made me stop and think for a moment…

And here’s the other thing about me…

I hate texting 😄

I’m that old-fashioned phone call kind of girl.

But here’s the beauty of it…

Being present looks very different to different people.

Here I was, thinking I was being present…
and in my own way, I was — just from a distance.

But that distance?

It was felt.

And what’s also beautiful…

is that my friends felt comfortable enough to tell me.

They’re not asking me to change who I am…

they’re just asking for a little more of me.

Being present… maybe it needs to be more than just people knowing you’re there.

Maybe they need to feel that you’re there.

I have a cousin who messages every night…
just to say he loves all of his cousins.

He’s been doing it for about four months now.

And then one night… about a week ago…
he missed it.

And you know what?

I felt it.

That one small message…
had become something I didn’t even realize I was counting on.

And in that moment…
I understood what my friends were trying to tell me.

So maybe the question isn’t just…
are you present?

Maybe it’s…

are you present in a way that people can feel?

Or are you, like me…

present from a distance…
and maybe needing to step a little closer?

Whisper: “Being present is more than being there… it’s letting someone feel you beside them.”

If this spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you.
You can always reach me at loveandlifewithlisa@gmail.com.

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