Come, come sit with me…
I want to talk about something I’ve been noticing — not in books, not just online, but in real life.
We as women should be uplifting other women, but sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we shame, we judge, or we put each other down. And I don’t get it, because I’m a very confident woman in a lot of ways, and I love uplifting other women. There is something beautiful about seeing another woman stand in her power and knowing you don’t have to shrink for her to shine. Because we all have our own gifts that make us shine — and no two women shine the same way.
Okay, so listen… I once had this woman boss, and let me tell you — she was the BEST. The kind of woman who knew her stuff and walked with a level of confidence that was just… undeniable.
But here’s what made her truly amazing: she loved sharing her knowledge. She loved uplifting every single one of us in the department. She wanted us to succeed — not just do our jobs, but grow in them.
When I worked there, I felt like I was part of something. A real community. No competition. No jealousy. No judgment. Just women supporting women, and it made all the difference.
I understand that not every woman is going to have your back. I get that. Some women will judge you, compete with you, or quietly root against you — it happens.
But as for me? I’m going to be that woman who lifts you up. The woman who helps you. The woman who celebrates you without hesitation.
Because here’s how I see it: when one woman succeeds, we all do. Your win doesn’t take anything from me — if anything, it adds to the world we’re all trying to navigate. I’m the kind of woman who can take joy in another woman’s success, because confidence and kindness go hand in hand.
My mom used to say, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” And honestly? She was right.
So here’s my take: if you’re at a point in your life where you can’t be a cheerleader for another woman — that’s okay. We all go through things. But please… don’t tear her down either.
Silence is better than shaming. And kindness doesn’t always have to be loud — sometimes it’s simply choosing not to hurt someone who’s just trying her best.
When we tear other women down, we’re not just hurting them — we’re giving society power over all of us. We’re feeding into the same standards that try to tell us who we should be, what we should look like, and how we should act.
But when we stand together? When we support each other? That’s when we become unstoppable.
Here is my truth: I’ve been that woman who was torn down by other women. And damn… it hurts. It cuts differently when it comes from someone who should understand your struggle.
But here’s the other truth — I also have my women. The ones who build me back up. The ones who remind me who I am. The ones who have my back without question. Those are my people.
So here’s what I’ve learned: we don’t have to be perfect to be good to each other. We don’t have to know everything, or have it all together, to lift another woman up.
We just have to choose kindness. Choose support. Choose unity over jealousy, and encouragement over silence.
Because yes, some women will tear you down… but there are others — the right ones — who will lift you higher than you ever thought you could stand. And that’s who I choose to be. A woman who uplifts, supports, and stands with other women.
The world is hard enough. Let’s not be hard on each other too.
Whisper: “I don’t need to dim your light to see my own — there’s room for both of us to shine.”
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