What Do You Bring to the Table?

Come, come sit with me. Grab yourself a drink and pull up a chair.

Let me ask you something.

There’s a question I heard recently that hasn’t left my mind.

What Do You Bring to the Table?

Not just in relationships… but in friendships, work, and the spaces you share with others.

And the more I thought about it, the more I realized something important.

It’s a question we don’t ask ourselves nearly enough.

I started thinking about that the other day—how I show up in different places in my life.

At work, I’m one version of me. Focused. Responsible. Getting things done.

But sit me at a table with my friends, and I’m laughing, teasing, telling stories.

And then there are the quieter tables… the ones where you’re just sitting with someone you care about, and it’s not about what you say, but how you show up.

But something else occurred to me while I was thinking about all of this.

Every table we sit at in life is different.

A friendship table looks different from a relationship table.

And the work table is on a whole different level entirely.

Each one has its own expectations.
Each one has its own boundaries.
And each one requires something different from the people sitting there.

At a friendship table, maybe what matters most is loyalty, laughter, and support.

At a relationship table, maybe what matters is trust, respect, and love.

At the work table, maybe what matters is responsibility, teamwork, and professionalism.

But no matter which table you’re sitting at, the same questions still matter.

What do you bring to the table?

Who is sitting at the table with you?

And just as importantly…

What do they bring to the table as well?

Because the truth is, the people around us shape the atmosphere of our lives.

Some people bring warmth and laughter.

Others bring tension and drama.

Some bring support and encouragement.

And others seem to bring negativity and chaos wherever they go.

Over time, you begin to realize something important.

Not everyone deserves a seat at your table.

As harsh as that may sound, sometimes we have to look around and be honest about what we see.

Who is bringing peace into your life?

And who is constantly bringing conflict?

Because the people we allow to sit beside us influence the environment we live in.

And sometimes growth means realizing that certain people no longer belong in the space you are creating in your life.

But there’s another side to this conversation that we can’t ignore.

If we are asking others to bring respect, kindness, and encouragement to the table…

Then we also have to ask ourselves the same question.

What are we bringing to the table?

It’s easy to notice negativity in others.

It’s harder to look honestly at ourselves.

Do we bring kindness?

Do we bring respect?

Do we bring peace into the room, or do we sometimes bring the very chaos we say we don’t want around us?

The truth is, a good table isn’t built by just one person.

It’s built by everyone sitting there.

And if we expect goodness from the people in our lives, then we should be willing to bring those same things with us when we take our seat.

My table isn’t perfect.

And the truth is, I’m not perfect either.

But one thing I hope I always bring with me when I sit down is kindness and respect.

Kindness in how I speak to others.
Respect in how I listen and value the people around me.
Kindness and respect in how I treat the people who share the table with me.

Because at the end of the day, none of us are perfect.

But we can choose the energy we bring into a room.

And kindness and respect are things the world can always use a little more of.

I don’t think any of us get it right all the time. I know I don’t.

But I am learning to pay attention… to who is sitting across from me, and to the energy I bring when I take my seat.

And maybe that’s where it starts.

So maybe tonight, take a quiet moment to look around your table.

What do you bring to it?

And who is sitting there with you?

✨ Whisper: The table doesn’t need perfection — it just needs people willing to show up with intention.

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With love,
Lisa L 🌹

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