Holding Space

Love and Life with Lisa 🌹 Holding Space A conversation about depression, love, boundaries, and the people who stay 🌿 Gentle Note Before We Begin This post contains a personal reflection on depression, grief, and emotional healing. There are no graphic details, but I speak honestly about pain, loss, and the journey back to myself. If today feels tender, please read gently, pause when needed, or come back when it feels right. You are always allowed to take care of your heart. Come, come — sit with me. Grab yourself a drink, and let’s talk about holding space . This is a conversation about depression, love, boundaries, and the people who stay. I’m going to tell you a story, and I want to be honest with you — it’s an emotional one for me. If my words feel heavy at times, or if you sense tears behind them, it’s because I got to t...
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🌹 Stop Fighting for Someone Who Is Okay With Losing You

Come, come sit with me…


I heard a quote the other day that hit me straight between the eyes:

“Stop fighting for someone who is okay with losing you.”

And listen… this isn’t just about romance.

This is about friendship.
This is about family.
This is about anyone you’ve poured into while they gave you crumbs back.

Sometimes we hang on so tight, thinking:

“If I give more, they’ll finally show up for me.”
“If I’m always there, one day they’ll be there for me too.”
“If I keep proving my loyalty, they’ll realize my value.”

But the truth?

If someone is truly okay with losing you, no amount of giving will change that.

You can’t teach someone to value what they’ve already decided to take for granted.
And hun… we deserve to be valued.

Here’s My Truth…

I have hung on too tight before — to friendships, to romantic love, to connections I thought would grow if I just held on a little longer.
I gave more.
I stayed longer.
I carried the weight of relationships that were never meant to be one-sided.

Until one day, I looked in the mirror and said to myself:

“Girl… you deserve better.”

And that was the moment everything shifted.

I chose not to hang on anymore.
Not out of anger.
Not out of spite.
But out of respect — for my heart, my peace, and my future.

And you know what?

I’m more peaceful now than I’ve ever been.

Choosing myself didn’t break me.
It freed me.

Here is what I learned — it is OKAY to choose yourself every time.
It’s not arrogant, it’s not selfish.
It’s choosing your peace and loving yourself.

There comes a moment when you stop fighting for people who don’t fight for you —
and in that moment, you’ll feel something unexpected:

Peace.
Clarity.
Strength.
A softness you didn’t know you were missing.

Letting go isn’t losing.
Sometimes it’s the beginning of becoming.

And the truth is simple:

Whisper: “When you stop holding on to what doesn’t value you, your hands are free to receive what does.”

Choose peace over pressure.
Choose clarity over confusion.
Choose yourself without apology.

Because the right people…
the real ones…
the ones meant to stay…

They don’t ask you to fight alone. 🌹

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If this message touched you or you want to share your own story, you can always email me. I read every message myself — you’re not alone in this journey. Write me anytime: loveandlifewithlisa@gmail.com

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