🌹 Have You Checked Your Love Maintenance?

🌹 Have You Checked Your Love Maintenance?

Come, come —
sit with me for a moment.

Let’s talk love…
and the maintenance no one ever teaches us about.

I was talking to my buddy John the other day, asking him why we lose connection with the people we love. And in classic John fashion, he gave me a whole list. A long one. Apparently he’d been thinking about it too. 😄

But it made me pause.

Because think about this for a second… and yes, I’m about to compare love to a car, so just follow me — I promise it’ll make sense.

When you get a new car, before you even drive it off the lot, the salesperson gives you a whole speech about maintenance:

  • oil changes
  • tire rotation
  • tune-ups
  • inspections
  • what happens if you ignore it

We smile, nod, and maybe even pretend we’ll do all the things… but let’s be honest — only about half of us actually stay on top of that maintenance.

The rest?
We skip appointments, push things off, hope for the best… and five years later, we’re out shopping for a new car.

Well… isn’t love kind of the same?

If we get a manual for our cars,
what would happen if we had a manual for our love lives?

Imagine:

“8 Ways to Keep Your Love in Maintenance Mode.”
A relationship tune-up.
A check-engine light for connection.
A “rotate your emotional tires” reminder. 😄

Because let’s be real…
love doesn’t always die — sometimes it just gets dusty from lack of care.

🌹 8 Love Maintenance Steps

(The things nobody teaches us, but every real connection needs.)

1. Check the Oil — Are We Still Communicating?

Communication is the oil of love. When it runs low, things get rough, loud, and overheated.

Sometimes a simple: “How are we really doing?” can save everything.

2. Rotate the Tires — Change the Routine

If everything feels predictable, connection slows down. Switch something — a date, a question, a ritual. Rotation keeps things moving.

3. Top Up the Fluids — Pour In Appreciation

Love dries out without gratitude.
A soft thank you. A compliment. A reminder that you still SEE them.

4. Check the Headlights — Are We Seeing Each Other Clearly?

Life gets busy. We stop looking with intention.

Turn the lights back on. See the person for who they are — not just the role they play.

5. Watch the Warning Lights — Don’t Ignore the Little Things

Relationships rarely break from big events first. It starts with the quiet hurts, the small disappointments, the “I’m fine” that isn’t fine.

6. Recharge the Battery — Bring Back Joy

You can’t run on empty. Love needs spark: laughter, affection, playfulness, intimacy.

7. Get a Tune-Up — Have the Hard Conversations

Just like a car needs real maintenance, so does love. The truth you’ve been avoiding. The fear you haven’t voiced. The boundary you need to set.

8. Don’t Skip the Test Drive — Make Time for US

Even 20 minutes can rebuild closeness. Phones down. Hearts open. Just presence. Just two people choosing each other again.

🌹 Let Me Leave You With This...

Most relationships don’t fall apart because two people stop loving each other — they fall apart because no one ever taught us how to maintain the parts that matter.

We maintain our homes.
We maintain our cars.
We maintain our jobs, our routines, our responsibilities…

But our hearts?
Our connection?
Our softness?
We leave those running on hope alone.

And love — real love — was never meant to survive on hope by itself. It needs care. Attention. Curiosity. Presence. A little checking in. A little tuning up. A little “hey, I still choose you.”

So whether you're married, dating, healing, or simply reflecting on your past — ask yourself gently:

What part of my heart needs maintenance today?

Because love isn’t a mystery.
It’s a practice.
And the small things you tend to quietly?
Those are the things that keep love alive.

🌹 Whisper

“Love doesn’t fall apart because it disappears — it falls apart because we stop maintaining the small things that keep it alive.”

🌹 Want to Share Something With Me?

If this made you think about someone — past or present — tell me quietly:

What’s one “love maintenance” step you wish you had learned earlier?

You can talk to me anytime.
My email is always open:
📩 loveandlifewithlisa@gmail.com

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